Trying to Stay Anonymous in a World of Social Media

Social media is a funny, ridiculous thing that all bloggers need to function in the world.  I hate to say that, or even admit it to myself.  If it weren’t for my blog, I would never be on Facebook, Twitter or any other form of social media.  Though I’m sure there are plenty of bloggers in this world that are extroverts who love to interact with the world, I’m very much so a hermit.

It’s the conundrum of being a blogger for me.  I put my whole life on display for the world to see, and you can’t have interesting posts if you don’t experience life, but I don’t like to leave the house if I can help it… So, I have social media, and, on the one hand, it allows me to interact with the world and on the other it is something that I don’t always love.

My main issue with social media is that I am an anonymous blogger, and social media doesn’t want you to be anonymous, they want your information.  They want your stats so they can use it to target you with ads, target others with ads and generally use you as the commodity that gets them money.  But many of us have anonymous Facebook accounts anyway.

Google Plus wouldn’t let me sign up; they said my name wasn’t real and that I had to use my real name.  They have an appeals process, but said up front that that was only if you could prove that the name you were trying to use was real.  Well, then G+ doesn’t want me that badly.  But Facebook?  Well, they have always been much more lenient.  So I have a Facebook account that runs my Fan Page.  It allows me to be friends with my bloggy friends without giving away too much personal info and I can join groups and such without worry.  That is, until Facebook locked my account for not having a real name. Technically, that has always been the rule, but they had never enforced it really.  But now, all of my other anonymous friends and I have to rethink how we are going to stay anonymous, but still be able to connect with everyone via social media.

Twitter is kind of the last frontier.  They don’t care who you are as long as you use their service.  We’ll see how long that lasts.  But for now, you are looking at the “face” of Jane Bloggs, a play on the UK version of John Doe.  I suppose, now that I’ve outted myself, I’d better hope Facebook doesn’t read my blog…

To me, it’s an interesting situation to be in.  In this day in age, it’s getting harder and harder to be anonymous.  As a blogger, we rely on social media to help our readers keep in touch, but as an anonymous blogger, it’s getting harder and harder to utilize social media and still maintain that anonymity.  Now that social media has turned into a business of selling people to businesses and not the other way around, our personal information has become extremely valuable.  As a result, anonymous users are slowly becoming a thing of the past, as Terms of Service are more and more often requiring the use of your real name.

Remember when social media began and was just a means of keeping in touch with people?  Yeah, me neither.

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About A Girl

A Girl is a 20 something blogger who began blogging in 2008 as a means of coping with a deployment. She is a Veterinary Technician by trade and loves her work in Emergency and Critical Care. She is married to a 11 year veteran of the USMC reserves, whom she meet shortly after he returned from a deployment. They have been married for four years, have three, very bratty dogs, and are currently trying to muddle through the aftermath of a difficult deployment for both.

4 thoughts on “Trying to Stay Anonymous in a World of Social Media

  1. This is extremely difficult! I agree. I find many avenues for privacy being blocked and it is unfortunate.
    Found you through the hop and am your newest follower,
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  2. Very good points from the other side.

    I say the other side because I’m one that needs a good amount of reciprocal divulging of self. If you’re true and honest in your blog,people want to know you. And if your true and honest in your blogs you want the same in return. And in the age of the catfish, where people get to fake who they are online, make up completely non existent people, anonymous can be scary. But at least it’s better than a catfish, right?

    Very interesting perspective as far as our personhood being a commodity now. I think all the credit (?) goes to Facebook for that.

    Following from the Aloha Friday blog hop, btw.

  3. so you know I <3 you, but I won't lie, i would be totally creeped out if an anonymous person wanted to be my FB friend.
    There is so much personal info on my FB that I only want to share with my friends and I would never friend an anonymous account. You never know who it could be. So personal safety common sense says "don't friend people you don't know." It's also like when you friend one of your internet friends, I feel like it should be a two way street, like "Oh this is who I am, but you are just going to give me a fake name? Great."
    I think if you want to be anonymous on FB you should stick with using a FB page, not an account, just because it probably makes people feel uncomfortable to not know who you are, but now you know all about them.
    On twitter it's different since you aren't sharing much, or you shouldn't be. And twitter is the land of anons.
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  4. I can imagine how difficult it is in this day and age to stay anonymous. You’ve done a fairly good job so far!
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