The Choice to Be Anonymous as a Blogger is a Personal One

Something I encounter a lot, and I mean A LOT, is people wanting to know why I am anonymous.  I know I’ve written about how hard it can be to stay anonymous and about the reason I like being anonymous, but I don’t know that I’ve ever shared the reasons behind the choice. It isn’t a choice.  I did not choose to be anonymous nor did I want to be initially.  And while I have grown used to it and it’s become second nature to refer to myself in the third person, use nicknames and generally hide my info, it was not what I wanted nor set out to achieve. I started this blog five years ago.  In that time, a lot has changed in my life.  I’m no longer a newlywed, my husband is no longer deployed and I have moved, gotten more dogs, bought a house, and a Continue reading

Elitist Bloggers

One of my biggest pet peeves (and I have a lot so that’s saying something) is when people make statements in the guise of something innocuous that is really being rude to your face without directly being an a-hole.  I see this most often in the blogging community. Of course, everyone has heard me say how much I love the community and how many awesome friends I’ve made.  And that is all very true.  But one thing that I don’t like, have never understood, and that really gets to me is the following statement:  “Well, I just blog for me…”  Blogging for you is just fine, it’s the variations on the statement that follow. “I just blog for me so I didn’t monetize.” “I just blog for me so I don’t really have to care about my stats.” “I just blog because I like it so I don’t really care Continue reading

10 Things People Assume About Bloggers

10 Things People Assume About Bloggers

I’ve been blogging for nearly five years at this point and in that time I have discovered a pretty awesome community.  I have also discovered that people are A*holes and that there are A LOT of misconceptions about bloggers.  So, I made a list of things people assume about me because I’m a blogger or about bloggers in general.  And y’all know how much I LOVE a good list. The number of likes on my social media and views on my blog are directly related to my self esteem or self worth.  Neither of which are true.  I like my likes and fans, but I was pretty amazing before y’all came along and I’ll be awesome long after I stop blogging. We obsessively watch our page views.  NOPE!  I forget to check my stats all the time.  Not to say that my numbers don’t matter at all, but they aren’t Continue reading

How to Make a Blank Square for Blog Design Using PicMonkey

How to Make a Blank Square for Blog Design Using PicMonkey

This is a quickie tutorial because I think everyone needs to have a plane blank square.  And it’s going to come in handy later on in my tutorials. I use PicMonkey for this, but of course, if you have Photoshop or something like that, this tutorial is unnecessary for you.   First, hop onto PicMonkey and open ANY photo.  Literally any photo will do, regardless of size or color. Then crop the image.  PicMonkey has present crops you can use, so select the square one and plop it somewhere on the picture.  Size doesn’t matter. Crop the image so that you have a square.  At this point, you can opt to resize it if you’d like.  I personally keep mine as a 150X150px since that’s a pretty standard size for blog use. Next, go to the Overlays section and select a geometric overlay.  Square works best.  And make the overlay Continue reading

Ditch Passionfruit and Run Your Own Ad Shop

Run Your Own Ad Shop with Adrotate

As nearly every blogger on the planet is aware, Passion Fruit recently switched how they are doing things and now charge a monthly fee.  Sure they offered a discounted annual rate to those who were already using their service, but if you are like me, the price wasn’t worth it, or, like many of my friends, you paid it even though it was too expensive for a lack of better options. I moved to Adproval, but it’s such a new service that I have found it still has far too many kinks to work out.  I also found that their set up was confusing for those who were wanting to buy my ads and it ended up causing a lot of problems.  I quickly saw my ad sales drop. Well, this month, I had had enough.  There just HAD to be a better option out there.  But I still didn’t Continue reading

Five Things That Are Missing From Your Sidebar

5 things missing from your sidebar

Welcome to my series “How to NOT Suck at Blogging.”  I decided to start this after numerous requests for written tutorials from bloggers I have helped.  The title is meant to be a joke, but if you suck at blogging (like I did when I first started) I hope you are able to find some useful and helpful information in the series. If not, well, don’t say I never did nothing nice for ya! I was originally saving this topic for later in the series, but after the week I had, I had to move it up.  So, let’s talk about your sidebar. Your sidebar is prime real estate.  Let me tell you that it can make or break whether or not someone wants to come back to your blog.  A cluttered and busy sidebar draws the readers eye to it and away from your content.  Given that your content Continue reading

4 MORE Blogging Etiquette Rules You Don’t Know You Are Breaking

Welcome to my series “How to NOT Suck at Blogging.”  I decided to start this after numerous requests for written tutorials from bloggers I have helped.  The title is meant to be a joke, but if you suck at blogging (like I did when I first started) I hope you are able to find some useful and helpful information in the series. If not, well, don’t say I never did nothing nice for ya! Last week I gave you a list of four blogging etiquette rules that you probably didn’t even know you were breaking.  This week, I have four more for you. These rules might seem simple or silly, but they are the most common rules I see getting broken by new bloggers who don’t know any better and seasoned bloggers who SHOULD know better. Don’t comment on stuff for the sole purpose of gaining a new follower.  I love Continue reading

4 Blogging Etiquette Rules You Don’t Know You Are Breaking Part 1

Four Blogging Etiquette Rules You Don't Know You Are Breaking

Welcome to my series “How to NOT Suck at Blogging.”  I decided to start this after numerous requests for written tutorials from bloggers I have helped.  The title is meant to be a joke, but if you suck at blogging (like I did when I first started) I hope you are able to find some useful and helpful information in the series. If not, well, don’t say I never did nothing nice for ya! So, let’s talk blogging etiquette: One thing that grinds my gears is blogging etiquette.  That seems really stupid, but to be honest, many of the etiquette rules we follow are for a really good reason.  Some are just you being courteous, but some things can have negative effects on SEO, numbers, or other things that professional bloggers (and semi-professional bloggers like me) rely on. I could write whole posts on commenting, guest posting and other individual Continue reading

How to Use Hootsuite: The Basics

Hootsuite Basics for Bloggers- How to NOT Suck at Blogging Series// A Boy, A Girl, and the Marine Corps

Welcome to my series “How to NOT Suck at Blogging.”  I decided to start this after numerous requests for written tutorials from bloggers I have helped.  The title is meant to be a joke, but if you suck at blogging (like I did when I first started) I hope you are able to find some useful and helpful information in the series. If not, well, don’t say I never did nothing nice for ya! Hootsuite is one of my favorite blogging tools.  I signed up for it ages ago and didn’t immediately recognize its brilliance in my life until much later.  But really, don’t we all want a simplified way to share our posts, images, memes and info across all our social media at once? My blog auto posts to Facebook and Twitter, but I never did find a great way to autopost to Google Plus, enter Hootsuite!  I mostly Continue reading

How I Doubled My Pinterest Follows in Three Weeks

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I’ve been asked to write a series about beginning blogging.  I’ve decided to call it: How to Not Suck at Blogging. So you can consider this post “How to Not Suck at Blogging Part 1.” But really, here’s how I doubled my Pinterest Followers in three weeks. There is a lot of information out there about why Pinterest matters, not just for fun, but as a tool to help promote your blog or business. That also means that there are a million blog posts full of tips on how to get more pins, re-pins, likes, follows and comments.  And I have probably read half of them.  And nothing had really worked amazingly well.  So I decided to test out some other ways to go about utilizing Pinterest to gain followers. The following tips are the things I tested over a three week period of time.  Using these tips, I doubled Continue reading