My marriage is in ruins.  That is my biggest secret.  The perfect couple, that deeply loves, that seem to have been made for each other can’t make their marriage function.  Our friends would be shocked to know the truth hidden behind carefully crafted smiles. Marriage is not about love.  I hate to say that.  But the fact is love is not enough to make a marriage work.  Love matters, that’s for sure.  Love is what makes you want to keep trying, want to make it work, want to working hard at having a successful marriage.  But it is not the exclusive decider. My husband and I love each other.  I love him more than I can express in words, but his deployment destroyed us and we can’t seem to pick up the pieces and put them back together.  He came home sullen and withdrawn unwilling or unable to reconnect with Continue reading →